What if the key to deeper connection isn’t in what you say — but in how your body speaks, listens, and moves?
On today’s episode, we sit down with Vanessa Van Edwards — behavioral researcher, bestselling author, and founder of Science of People. A self-described “recovering awkward person,” Vanessa turned social anxiety into a science-backed toolkit anyone can use to improve communication, connection, and leadership. Vanessa studies what happens beneath words: how posture, tone, eye contact, and presence shape how we’re perceived and how we make others feel.
Together, we explore the subtle science of connection — from how warmth and competence support charisma to the micro-cues that determine trust, likability, and confidence. This is an episode for anyone who wants to show up with authenticity, read the room better, and make their communication more impactful.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- How to use posture and physical space to project calm confidence
- Why warmth must come before competence to build trust fast
- How to eliminate vocal fry and question-inflection for stronger communication
- The key to spotting and disarming contempt before it festers
- How to teach kids “micro social skills” that build courage and connection
It’s a grounded, science-backed guide to showing up with more presence — and helping others feel at ease in your orbit.
“Stop trying to be impressive. Stop trying to be funny. Stop trying to tell great stories. Just let other people impress you. What questions could you ask to let them impress you?”
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