We’re back with a special edition of the Finding Mastery podcast: another Ask Me Anything episode, built from the deep, thoughtful questions submitted by our community.
In this AMA, Michael Gervais is joined by former NFL player, Co-Founder and CEO of Momentous, and longtime friend of Finding Mastery, Jeff Byers. Jeff has built something very special with Momentous, a supplement company grounded in transparency and integrity in an industry that can be full of noise and misinformation. He often says trust is earned, and he takes that responsibility personally.
His relentless approach to mastery—both for himself and for the team he’s building at Momentous—makes him an ideal co-host to help Mike wrestle with questions across a wide range of topics… how to perform with more clarity, how to work skillfully with strong emotions, and how to build a life that feels aligned with what matters most.
Key insights we explored:
- Shift from perfection to purpose… why “the constant pursuit of perfectionism” is a setup for burnout, and how purpose changes the whole frame.
- Downregulating the nervous system… practical ways to move from sympathetic “on” to parasympathetic “rest and digest,” including breath, gaze, laughter, touch, nature, and intentionally induced recovery.
- Anger and emotional skill… how to feel anger without outward harm or inward collapse, and why the goal is to build the capacity to be “unbothered.”
- The “Five Rs”… a simple framework for working with intense states: recognize, release, regroup, refocus, respond.
- Default mode network… what it is, why it runs “am I okay?” in the background, and why deep focus can quiet it.
- Loneliness and connection… why loneliness can surge when you leave familiar people and routines, and how “time-boxing” the feeling can help you train it instead of letting it bleed through the entire day.
- Reflection when life is full… how to build a sustainable rhythm for inner work, from 90-second practices to scheduled retreats, and why scheduling and celebration matter.
If you find yourself wrestling with perfectionism, emotional spillover, loneliness, or a life that won’t slow down, this AMA is a strong reminder that mastery is trained—one choice, one practice, one reset at a time.
“Awareness is always there, but you do need to build the psychological skills to be aligned with awareness, to be with awareness. And awareness is kind of the whole thing. If you’re not aware, you can’t adjust.” – Mike
“You’ve got to learn to love to be uncomfortable.” – Jeff
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